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Jorge Bucay (born 1949) is a gestalt psychotherapist, psychodramatist, and writer from Argentina. His books have sold more than 2 million copies around the world, and have been translated into more than seventeen languages.Here we have some parts of the book. (come on, it’s not that long!) I hope you find something interesting in here” It is very difficult for someone to speak for what is happening to himself, for what he needs or feels. Everyone always want to talk for the other.

Many couples break up because they believe that with someone else things would be different and then they face up the same difficulties and what has changed is only the person.Difficulties are integral part of the way of love. The solution could be to give up on the fantasy of being always in love and without conflicts. Reality becomes better when we decide to enjoy what we can, instead of suffering because of an illusion that can’t come true.Relationship helps our personal development, to become better persons, to know ourself better. Therefore it worths the effort.

It worths the torment and the pain we have to deal. And all of these are worthing, because when we have to get over them, we will not be the same anymore. We will be more conscious, we will feel more integrated.The relationship doesn’t save us from anything: it shouldn’t save us from anything. Many people are looking for a partner as a mean to solve their problems.

They believe that a close relationship will cure their anxieties, boredom, lack of meaning of life. They hope that the relationship will fill their gaps.

What a mistake. When I choose a partner having these expectations, I inevitably end up to hate this person who doesn’t give me what I was expected. Then I’ll try to find another one, another oneor decide to spend my life grumbling for my luck.So, the point is to make my life without waiting someone else to do that for me.The thought that being in love will save us, will solve all our problems and will offer us a constant state of happiness or security, can only keep us trapped in fantasies and illusions, as it also weakens the original power of love, which knows how to transform us.

And nothing is more enlightening from then on. There is nothing more special than experiencing your own transformation beside the one you love.Instead of looking for shelter in a relationship, we could accept the stimulating force that awakens us of dormancy and make us come into direct contact with life. This is the meaning of relationship: not the salvation but the contact. The contacts.

You with you. We with the world.We can look at our hands, our feet, our navel, but there are parts that we haven’t see direct, as it is our face. We find it hard to believe that we’ll never see it with our eyes. In our personality, in the way we exist in the world, there are aspects hidden from our perception. To see them, we need a mirror. And the only mirror who can reveal them to us, is the other. The sight of the other shows me what I can’t see with my eyes.

As it happens with the material world, the accuracy of reflection depends on the quality of the mirror and the distance we keep to look from. The more accurate the mirror, the more detailed and accurate picture will be.

The more closer I am to see the reflection of my picture, the more accurate will be the perception that I have for myself. The best, most accurate and strict than all the mirrors, is the couple’s relationship: the only bond that can be closely reflected the best and worst sides of me.When something annoys me in the other, almost always means that this something is bothering me myself. If I am not with conflict with this side of me, i don’t bother that the other has it. So, the question should be: Why this annoys me to the other? What has to do with me?Being in love connects us with the joy we feel, knowing the other’s existence. We have the rare feeling of fullness.Emotions, unlike the passions, last longer and are connected to the perception of external reality.

Love starts when I can see the one I have in front of me. When I discover the other.

Then, my worst aspects begin to come to the surface, which I also project them to the other. To love someone is a challenge to get rid of those projections so I can come in actual contact with him. This process is not easy, but it is one of the most beautiful things can happen, or that we help to happen.To be able to love is completely necessary to dare to look from the inside.

If I don’t show my true self, none can love me. Or they will love my disguise.

We have such a need for love, that for a while we can enjoy it even if it is fraud.The problems of a couple are personal problems that are manifested in the relationship. We carry the pain that we could not express in our childhood and we externalize it through our reactions, without realizing it. This means that we place ourselves before we can think. Relationships and marriage are able to reveal these pains and we assume that is our partner the one who causes them.According our disappointments, we are used to believe that we are not worthy or appropriate to be loved as we are and then we feel forced to make an identity for those we feel rejected: our parents. And because this identity is not enough, we make another one and another oneWe invent an identity worth to be loved, having the conviction that as we are we don’t deserve to be loved. The key is to dare to freed from our alleged identity and be settled in the world without having the demand to respond to it.

We are afraid and it is very hard to penetrate to the dark side of ourselves and abandon the old and known identity. To give and receive love converts to a very painful process if I am not determined to abandon my old structure. In different ways we all search for love. We have to realize that we indeed can and maybe we have to experience the development procedure without being prisoners of a restrictive ego.Most people don’t worry about giving love. They worry on being loved. They think they love but they are addicted from their need to possess someone.”To love you with the eyes closed Means to love you blind To love you and looking you face to face, would be madness.

I would like to be loved with madness”The idea of the other half is the worst of the perceptions that we learned and we are supposed to find it. Why not to find someone whole instead of compromising with someone half. When I need the other to live, relationship becomes an addiction. And if you are addicted, you don’t have choices. And without choices there is not freedom.

And without freedom there is no true love. And without true love marriages can exist but without relationship. ”Loving Oneself With Open Eyes, Jorge BucayI tried to find for you a link for the english edition, but much to my surprise I couldn’t. I’m sure you can find it in your closest bookstore.Here is a video that I remembered as I was reading about the other half.

Based on this book, translation, 'Let me tell you a story', I got an impression that Jorge Bucay is trying to be South American guru of popular psychology. In this book, guru of Gestalt psychotherapy and philosophy.

It was like he was trying to be bookish Sean Maguire from 'Good Will Hunting' but he failed. At least for me.Jorge Bucay wrote this book in gestalt mannerism, meaning, Bucay is a real Argentinean psychotherapist and he wanted us, me, the reader to get in contact with myself, using autosuggestion as a tool. Which is of course basic thing of any self analysis, but I found his stories quite shallow and too general. Yes, all of his stories have one intention – using warm connotations, fables and parabolas, symbolism from ancient cultures, countries and religions. Rather than cold 'psycho' expressions to approach masses – crowd.Which is ok if your inner world is a land not yet discovered, and if you are disconnected with yourself and if you need instant help. Something soothing that will tell you, you are not alone. Which is again, something we all can relate to.

Nobody wants to be psychologically special (this sounds dumb:), we all need to have and we want comrades during our crises.I am not trying to diminish Bucay, but I heard so much about this book and now I'm really disappointed. He used many anecdotes and situations which everybody has in life – problems with work, partners, lovers, friends and family. Problems with our obligations, duties, what we want, what we need, what we have, and of course, how we deal emotionally and how we project these things outside - in comparison with what is happening inside of us.

He used stories, rather that advices, to show us the way 'out'.It just didn't work with me. It wasn’t deep enough, it was cute and charming. Maybe that's my problem.

But to explain that I would have to start a sentence with, My dear diary.:). I will come back to this book in some time in my life, I just know it. This book is full of wisdom, neatly packaged into stories that are beeing told in therapy-sessions.

The overarching story itself isn't really important, but it doesn't have to be. The main appeal of this book, to me at least, are the stories the therapist tells the narrator. They are about everything in life.

Be it fear, happiness, expectations or Lies. You will enjoy this book the most if you really try to understand what I will come back to this book in some time in my life, I just know it.

This book is full of wisdom, neatly packaged into stories that are beeing told in therapy-sessions. The overarching story itself isn't really important, but it doesn't have to be. The main appeal of this book, to me at least, are the stories the therapist tells the narrator. They are about everything in life.

Be it fear, happiness, expectations or Lies. You will enjoy this book the most if you really try to understand what every story wants to tell you. At the Core of each story there is a realisation about the topic in question.I did not read this book carefull enough.

I bet I missed the meaning of a lot of stories so I know that I will read this once in a while, even if It's just so I can re-read a story I loved. I loved how the book turns into a self-help guide as you read story after story and begin to find yourself in Demian's problems and start to implement Jorge's pieces of advice into solving your own daily struggles. The stories are brilliantly told, and what makes them even better is Jorge carefully choosing them and adressing them to each of Demian's hardships. Making it easier for the reader to recognize a situation in his life where a certain lesson should be applied.This was my second time I loved how the book turns into a self-help guide as you read story after story and begin to find yourself in Demian's problems and start to implement Jorge's pieces of advice into solving your own daily struggles. The stories are brilliantly told, and what makes them even better is Jorge carefully choosing them and adressing them to each of Demian's hardships. Making it easier for the reader to recognize a situation in his life where a certain lesson should be applied.This was my second time reading this book, with barely remembering having it read the first time.

Therefore, not only would I recommend it to anyone seaking easy, yet stimulating read, but I also advise you to grab it every once in a while. Because, no matter how inspiring the stories are, there is a slight chance of you actually remembering all of them and putting them into actions. This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers. To view it,So a customer at my work, Skyview Coffee lent me his book and I must say it's not my favorite. It wasn't BAD but then it's not really my cup of tea.

I don't like reading life advice books but the short stories were pretty good.I didn't understand the ending AT ALL. The poem was just confusion dot com and I thin that's probably because I didn't read it that carefully but the poem really was pretty weird. The short stories were a nice touch and I enjoyed reading it but like I said, this stuff isn't really my thing. I enjoyed the one where someone finds a bag of coins and the owner of it accuses him of stealing 13 of then when in fact he only took 2 and then the judge said that it wasn't the rich guy's pouch and awarded the pouch of coins to the person who found it. That was a nice story.Acutally, most of the short stories in this book was nice but I just didn't really love the parts where Jorge is talking to Damien.Overall, not bad book if you like this stuff. I don't but it was a nice, light read until the ending, that is.

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It didn't open my eyes or anything but it felt like I was reading short children's books again so I kind of like it. I'll see you guys soon. I did finish 2 books and 2 book reviews today so I'm going to go rest now, BYE!!!!!

This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers. To view it,I'd actually give it a 3,5 star rating, but since that's not possible on here, it rounds up to 4.The lower rating is a result of me not liking the main character Demian. I never really connected with him, neither did I find him interesting. His personality lacks depth and it's just hard to empathise.

Jorge and the stories on the other hand were very lovely and touching, many of the topics had me thinking for days even after finishing the book and I hope that I'm able to remember them just as I'd actually give it a 3,5 star rating, but since that's not possible on here, it rounds up to 4.The lower rating is a result of me not liking the main character Demian. I never really connected with him, neither did I find him interesting.

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His personality lacks depth and it's just hard to empathise. Jorge and the stories on the other hand were very lovely and touching, many of the topics had me thinking for days even after finishing the book and I hope that I'm able to remember them just as well as Jorge did.:).